Are you jealous of your ex?

Love is such a crazy feeling. It comes with several ups and several downs, and most of them happen when we least expect it.

Sometimes, your love may fizz out or you may assume that your love is fizzing out.

At times when a relationship goes into a slump, a lot of strange things start happening within us.

We feel terrible, frustrated, and we get annoyed with everything around us. Sometimes we feel worse.

And some other times, we’re just not ready to accept the fact that things are over and the relationship has fallen apart.

And even if we do accept it, we just don’t want to see our partner with someone else. Everyone goes through these feelings, so that’s nothing to worry about. But just sometimes, you may find yourself in a mad fit of rage and confusion and do a few things that could just be defined as acts of vengeful stupidity.

Jealousy and a happy ex

“I had a bad break up with my guy”, says Jenny, a young corporate woman, “I just couldn’t come to terms with it, and I found myself stalking my ex boyfriend everywhere he went. He couldn’t see me, but I followed him around in the evenings from a distance. A week after our break up, I found him in a coffee shop with a gorgeous girl. They were flirting and couldn’t keep their hands off each other’s faces and bodies. I was furious, but I stood a fair distance away and watched them patiently, even as every passing minute made me feel worse. As they stepped out, I don’t know what came over me but I just ran towards them, and slapped him and kicked him in his groin. And then, I sat on the curb and put my face in my palms and started crying.”

What this young woman felt was pain, pain beyond anything she had ever felt. You may never have felt it, but sometimes pain and hate replaces the love that we have for someone and makes us do terrible things.

For most of us, feeling jealousy of an ex is an experience that inflicts a lot of pain, but it remains an inner experience and doesn’t reveal itself to others. But in some cases, things can get quite nasty.

The shadow of love

Remember how you felt when you first met your ex lover, how did you feel?

You would have loved a few aspects including your ex’s appearance and personality, and you may have especially adored a few gestures this person used.

Now if you’re jealous of your ex, you probably hate the same things that you once loved the most about them. Think of a past experience of yours about love and jealousy. All the time, the exact opposite feelings of love is experienced when you’re jealous. Romantic jealousy is nothing but a deep, dark shadow of love and it is the exact opposite of the way you feel when you first fall in love.

Love completes you, and romantic jealousy of your ex rips you apart. The type of love that a person has towards their lover bases the character of the type of jealousy that will be experienced if things in the relationship turn nasty.

Jealousy can be excruciatingly painful. And all the happiness of the love you’ve shared comes back in the form of the green eyed jealousy when you go through a break up or a bad phase that you’re not ready to accept.

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