If you and your spouse find it difficult to say what you mean to each other, this could have an adverse effect on your marriage. Make your relationship a priority, and practice to communicate effectively with your spouse. It doesn't just happen, and so it is going to take effort on the part of both of you.
1. Practice Active Listening
Effective listening is a key ingredient in healthy communication. Set aside uninterrupted time each day to listen to each other. As you actively listen to each other, this increases understanding and rapport between you.
Pay attention when you spouse is speaking, and make a conscious effort to to hear the complete message he or she is sending. For example, turn off the television or radio when your spouse is speaking to you.
2. Use "I" Statements to Make Requests
Instead of using “you” statements which could come across to your spouse as demanding or judgmental, try using “I” statements to communicate your needs.
Be sure to communicate your thoughts and feelings clearly and directly. When you do, you are likely to get a more positive response fro your spouse.
3. Practice Empathy
Empathy is accurately identifying the feelings and experiences of your spouse. You demonstrate empathy when you communicate an understanding of your partner’s feelings in a particular situation.
Try to understand your spouse’s viewpoint. He or she wants to be heard and understand. When you and your spouse meet these needs, the result is more healthy communication patterns, greater intimacy, and a higher level of marital satisfaction.
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