Calling an ex means that you are DENYING the fact that what you had together is over and done with.

Most people who are fresh from a break-up go through the five stages of grief. These include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, respectively. Calling an ex after you’ve broken up embodies the first four.

Calling an ex means that you are DENYING the fact that what you had together is over and done with. Sometimes, the truth is hard to accept and that little bit of control you think you have over the situation might be clouding your judgment.

ANGER comes when you think that the situation is under your control, when in reality it’s not. You could be angry because you are not getting what you want. By calling your ex, you are sating your desire to do something about your need for reconciliation.

By deciding to call your ex, you inadvertently BARGAINED with yourself by promising that good things will come out of calling your ex. You could even bargain by promising that it will be the last call you will make.

DEPRESSION pushes people to do things that they would not normally do when they are in a happy state of mind. The loneliness you feel without your ex could be the reason why you want to call them.

When you address the facts, you will avoid making the unnecessary call. Remember, your ex is a person with his or her own feelings and free will. Your calling them will not immediately produce positive results. They have made their own decisions and are probably living their life happily without you.