1. Right now you’re a bit crazy. You’re flooded with anger, confusion, denial and despair.
In this “emotional” state, you don’t want to talk to your ex . Nothing will make him run away even further than a “feelings” conversation, or desperate begging and pleading.

The no-contact period will allow you to cool down, process your feelings and think rationally about the real reasons you’re not together anymore.

2. Over there on the “other side”, your ex has a chance to do the same. He can calm down (if he is angry), think rationally and most importantly – realize that he has really lot you and even
regret leaving you .

3. This is the time when your ex realizes that he misses you, and maybe can’t and won’t go on with his life without you.

He won’t be able to miss you if you are in constant contact with him! This is hugely critical and the most important “benefit” of the 60-day rule.

4. Your ex will uncontrollably start to wonder why you’re not begging to get back with him . This way you’re turning the table on them and gaining control over the situation.

5. You get a chance to heal yourself, figure out what happened and how you can prevent and fix it when you’re back together.

6. The no contact rule will
prevent the annoying on-and-off relationship . I’m sure you don’t want that for yourself, right?
If the cause of your breakup won’t be fixed, you’ll just break up again in a few months – this time, probably for good.


1. Right now you’re a bit crazy. You’re flooded with anger, confusion, denial and despair.
In this “emotional” state, you don’t want to talk to your ex . Nothing will make him run away even further than a “feelings” conversation, or desperate begging and pleading.

The no-contact period will allow you to cool down, process your feelings and think rationally about the real reasons you’re not together anymore.

2. Over there on the “other side”, your ex has a chance to do the same. He can calm down (if he is angry), think rationally and most importantly – realize that he has really lost you and even
regret leaving you .

3. This is the time when your ex realizes that he misses you, and maybe can’t and won’t go on with his life without you.

He won’t be able to miss you if you are in constant contact with him! This is hugely critical and the most important “benefit” of the 60-day rule.

4. Your ex will uncontrollably start to wonder why you’re not begging to get back with him . This way you’re turning the table on them and gaining control over the situation.

5. You get a chance to heal yourself, figure out what happened and how you can prevent and fix it when you’re back together.

6. The no contact rule will
prevent the annoying on-and-off relationship . I’m sure you don’t want that for yourself, right?
If the cause of your breakup won’t be fixed, you’ll just break up again in a few months – this time, probably for good.