1) Tell your partner that you are jealous and ask for a solution
Jealousy is a human feeling and it is absolutely ok to feel jealous for your girlfriend or boyfriend. Don't hesitate to talk it out with your partner. While you do so, ask for a solution and tell you partner that you want to stop the annoying feeling, but simply don't know how to.
If your partner really understands you, a warm and loving discussion will likely make headway and help you confront the demons of jealousy. Sometimes, all it needs is dim lights, a glass of wine or a hot cup of cappuccino, and a candid conversation to address a seemingly complicated situation.
2) Make your partner jealous if he/she does not understand your situation
One of the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship or a marriage, is to confront all issues head on. If your partner refuses to acknowledge your insecurities, it may be a good idea to show him/her how it feels to be jealous.
This is a delicate trick to play and has the potential for adverse effects. So play a situation out in your head and do some harmless flirting with your or your partner's friends of the opposite sex, while your partner is watching. This should get your partner's attention. Just make sure you don't get carried away and later when you are confronted, tell you partner how you feel exactly the same way.
3) Build trust in your relationship to get over jealousy
Very rarely will there be any relationship guide without the mention of the word, trust. Simply because it is foundation on which all relationships are based on. Once you learn how to build trust in your relationship, it is likely that you will feel less jealous for your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife.
4) Talk it out with a common friend
Do you and your partner have a common bestie? If you do, it may be worth talking it out with him/her. Just make sure that you keep your conversation to-the-point and don't end up revealing too many intimate details of your relationship.
Just scratch the surface and ask your friend for his/her opinion. More likely than not, your friend will tell you to relax, calm down, and throw your feelings of jealousy in the bin. Make sure that this is a friend you trust, and not someone who will mock you later on.
5) Meet your partner's friends who make you jealous
Are any of your girlfriend's guy friends making you feel jealous? Is the fact that your boyfriend spending time with his best friend, who is a girl, making your feel insecure? Are your husband's late evenings at work with female colleagues making you paranoid? Is a new guy at your wife's workplace making you feel suspicious?
If you nodded along or find yourself in similar situations, meeting that 'person in question' could be the way to stop worrying and putting an end to all the jealousy. You may find that meeting someone in person gives you a better idea of their personality and characteristic traits. So meet your man's female friends or your woman's male friends to put your worries to rest. And if you feel that your jealousy is not baseless, talk to your partner about it.
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