Are you a woman? Have you ever slaved away in front of the mirror, scrutinizing your face, trying to make your skin look as flawless as possible, only to find that your boyfriend barely seemed to care?
Maybe you did your makeup completely differently that day and you had a conversation like this:
"Notice anything different?"
"Uh, did you change your hair?"
"God, why do I even bother?!"
Right now you might be wondering how I know your life. What, have I been spying on your conversations? Am I a fly on the wall? Am I psychic?
Nope. I'm just a guy who has had this same conversation countless times--with both girlfriends and (fabulously gay) boyfriends who wear makeup.
I'm sorry, but here's the truth: We don't care.
The question, "Do guys like makeup?" is kind of moot because we don't even think about it, to be honest.
Unless a guy is feminine, chances are that he will not notice what you put on your face--at least not directly.
Yes, I know, I know. You do all that hard work, would it kill us to appreciate it?
Or maybe it bothers you that someone would even imply that you do it to be attractive to men. You do it for yourself, not to please "the male gaze," right?
Let's get real here. Many women put on makeup to look more sexually attractive. Most women are straight, so many (though not all) are at least subconsciously trying to appeal to men. At the very least, it's common for a woman to expect to be more appealing to men by wearing makeup.
This sounds logical on the surface. You look nicer, so why wouldn't a guy find your face more attractive when it's done up?
The problem is that women often miscalculate what actually makes them attractive to the opposite sex. In fact, a study on men and women's makeup preferences supports this.
As a woman, you will tend to find different things attractive than a man would--and yet how often do you take for granted that a man sees female beauty the same way you do?
All humans are guilty of assuming that others view things from our personal perspectives when they don't.
The truth is that your man probably prefers less makeup on you than you think, for a few important reasons that you might have not considered:
1) Men View Appearances Holistically
The first thing you have to understand about (most) guys is that the small details escape us.
We forget anniversaries, birthdays, and so on. We forget random comments that we made during an argument (even though you'll remember every word). We barely notice when our fly is open and when there is lint on our pants.
Similarly, a guy is unlikely to notice small changes in your appearance. If he doesn't notice his own messy cowlicked hair and the stains on his T-Shirt, how is he going to notice that you plucked your eyebrows into the perfect arch?
It's not that guys don't appreciate the appearances of women. Obviously, we do. It's just that we view them holistically.
What does this mean? Well, rather than seeing you as a collection of a million little details--your eye shadow, your lipstick, your fancy blouse, your cute heels that you paid way too much for--we'll view you as a whole picture .
A guy will look at you for two seconds, and in those important few seconds, his brain will say, "Nice, I like" or "Meh, I don't like."
It really is that simple. You press the right button or your don't.
There is no, "Hmmm, she's cute, I guess, but if she wore a bit more eyeliner maybe it would bring out her eyes more."
Nope. To be crude, either a guy looks at you and is aroused by how you look, or he's not.
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