What to Do When Love Is Perceived Differently

Love means different things to different people. The giving and receiving of love is a dance. Take note that:

Some need more love, while others want to give less. And yet, these people are bound together. If you are in such a relationship, you may need to redefine your expectations of each other to avoid disappointment and despair. With adults, it can come down to showing love instead of just sayingLove


What about when words and actions don't match? Discussions between those in the relationship may be able to resolve differences. For a child, both showing and telling are critical. You can't just tell your child that you love them when you act as if you are angry or upset with them much of the time.

Additionally, even if you think that your extra efforts with regard to making cookies or attending field trips is evidence of your affection for your child, assuring them each night when you tuck them in that they are special and loved is an important way to end the day.

Sting's "Love Gone Wrong"
Various Ways to Show Love
Hugging and kissing
Holding hands
Keeping promises
Coming home early
Cooking dinner (and cleaning up afterwards)
Offering to taking on an unpleasant chore
Giving flowers
Listening attentively
Knowing his/her passions
Knowing his/her fears
Knowing his/her life desires
Writing love notes
Preserving a special memory (photos, scrapbook, compilation of songs)
Unselfishly devoting time and energy to him or her