1. Your Hobbies: Being in a healthy relationship means being with someone who supports your passions (and vice versa).
There's no need to say you're sorry for taking some time to do what makes you happy, so instead of apologizing for it, show your partner why it's so important to you and make it clear that you support their hobbies as well.
2. Your Opinions: Your partner doesn't have to agree with you about everything, but they should respect your opinions. Apologizing for expressing your opinions unconsciously communicates that they don't matter, so stick up for what you believe and make sure that your partner doesn't make you feel bad about it.
3. Your Quirks: " Be yourself." How many times has each of us heard this advice? And for good reason? Being able to be your true self is one of the most important things in a relationship, and even if you have one or two core quirks that your partner doesn't love, you shouldn't be expected to continually apologize for them. You should never have to apologize for being who you are.
4. Trivial Mistakes: It's easy (especially for women) to fall into a pattern of apologizing for little things that do no harm to those around them or that other people don't care about. If whatever little mistake you might have made is innocent and perhaps even unnoticeable to your spouse, you shouldn't feel obligated to apologize for it.
5. Something You Didn't Do: Sometimes, it can seem easier to apologize for something you didn't do just to avoid a fight. This empty apology will do more harm than good to your relationship, so avoid the urge to say sorry just to get your partner off your back.
6. Feeling Sad or Vulnerable: It is perfectly normal to feel these things, and as long as you aren't taking your feelings out on your spouse, they're nothing to apologize for. After all, relationships are all about love and support, so your partner should be there to pick you up when you're feeling down (or keep you company down there if you need to wallow for a little while).
7. Expressing Your Needs: Even if your partner can't meet your every want and need, they should be there to listen and try to compromise, and you should never have to preface that kind of conversation with "I'm sorry, but." Openly communicating about your desires is something to be proud of, not to apologize for.
8. Nothing: If you find yourself apologizing to your partner all the time, and for no particular reason, it may be time to seriously reevaluate your relationship. If you're being walked all over and falling into an abusive cycle where you find yourself making excuses for your partner and apologizing for things that you shouldn't have to, it's time to take a long, hard look at your relationship and evaluate whether or not it's still healthy.
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